Too many times, too many relationships I've seen poisoned by what someone thinks is "love." Someone who shows you what you deserve from day one, but slowly changes to bring you hurt and disrespect, has shown you who they will really be throughout your relationship. Yes it is true, people change. And sometimes, some of us go through what you might call a "rough patch," but that brings no excuse to continuously mistreat your partner. Too many times I've seen someone, male or female, take the mistreating that their partner gives them and say things such as "they're having a bad day" or even "they're like that with everyone." It's mind-boggling that we've come to point where people are unsure of what they deserve - unsure of their own worth. WE ARE ALL WORTHY of someone who loves us unconditionally. There should never be a time when you tell your partner it's "okay" for abusing you, both physically and verbally. There should never be a time when you wonder if you are enough. There should never be a time when you think they used to love you "better". If that time comes, you know it is your time to leave. And there we find another issue - leaving; not many people think they have the strength to leave, especially if the relationship has a label of a year or longer.
Leaving will be one of the hardest things you've ever done. To some, harder than others. It always depends on the relationship. Strength is within you. It is within all of us, and we don't even know how strong we really are. Leaving can destroy some, and that might sound scary, but once you have left, you can begin to rebuild..
Rebuilding; this is the part that will bring you the greatest joy. Nowadays, people run to relationships for security. We are all scared of what might come and no one wants to face it alone. But you are NOT secure in the arms of someone who does not see your value. And everyone has GOT TO STOP trying to PROVE their worth to someone who does not SEE IT THEMSELVES. Those people are poison. Those people do not deserve the endless mountains of love you have to give away.
One day, YOU will find a way to rebuild your heart, and you will find your soul, and you will know yourself, better than you've ever dreamed. That day will only come when you realize what you've been taking isn't what you deserve. Stop taking from others and start giving to yourself. LOVE is all you need.. And when you realize that, my friend, you've won.
